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You might assume that non-hetero dating is pretty much the same as hetero dating, and this is true to some extent. However, with LBGTQ+ dating there are all the usual complications with some more thrown in for good measure, which is why it’s always useful to understand and to read up on some non-hetero dating tips to make sure you make the most of your time out with the people you are attracted to. Read on to find out more.
Be Honest
As you probably know, there is no one type of non-hetero sexuality. Because of this, it’s crucial to be entirely honest with the person you’re dating so they understand you more. Equally, it’s important to listen when your partner is being honest with you. You don’t have to tell them every single thing you’ve ever done or thought, but it’s a good idea to mention if you’ve only ever been with men up until now (or women), or you’re gender fluid , or you’re transgender. Everyone is different and being open and honest about who you are is crucial not just for the potential relationship, but for you as a person too.
Consider Your Partner’s ‘Outness’
It’s not always easy for people to come out, and it might be that the person you’re dating hasn’t managed to reach that stage with their family or friends just yet. Maybe you haven’t either. It’s vital you take this into account and that you’re careful with their outness. The last thing you would want to do is to accidentally out someone who wasn’t ready, just as you wouldn’t want them to out you before you had worked out what to say and who to tell. Begin by letting your partner know where you are in terms of being out and ask them the same question. Once you both know, you can be a lot more careful. You can also support one another when the times comes to let the world know who you really are.
What Are Your Needs?
When you start dating someone, you’ll need to find out as much as possible about them before you can decide whether they have the potential to be a long- term partner. It’s crucial to be as upfront and honest as possible about this, and that doesn’t just mean being honest about your sexuality – it also means being honest about what you need. For example, perhaps you’re a woman in her first lesbian relationship, and you know you need a strapon harness to be part of your sex life. Whatever it is, make your needs known from the start, as it will be hard to suddenly mention them years down the line, and you’ll never really be fully happy. Don’t forget to ask your partner what they need too – that’s just as important.
Be Confident
There is something very sexy about a confident person , someone who knows who they are and what they want, and having this air of self-confidence about you when you are dating someone is a great thing. Of course, it can go too far and you can come across as arrogant or self-involved, so you’ll need to work out where the line is that you’ll have to draw. However, once you do that, you’ll find dating becomes easier and you become happier in the process.
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